Celebrating one year of marriage.

Love is everything.

Sunday at the beach.

Australia is offering so much sunshine, It's incredible. Pretty much every weekend, we are driving to one of the beautiful beaches of Perth to spend the afternoon. On Sunday, our choice went for South Beach in Fremantle.

Many people are joining the fun with their dogs, to spend some time, swimming and playing on the beach. Our little Charlie was one of them and I can assure you he had the time of his life. Until next weekend.

Marriage.

"My husband and I are best of friends first and foremost. We fight like cats and dogs, but never stay mad for long. I was lucky to find him, he is in every way, my soulmate." 
Today’s post is going to be about marriage. I would like to share my young experience of being married since almost a year now.

I got married on April 5^th, 2014 at 22 years old. And I truly think I am the luckiest girl in the world because I married my best friend. Legend says your wedding day is the best day of your life, but I say if it’s the case then your life’s perspective is very low. Is this means the rest of your life won’t never have as much joy as you did on the day you got married? Sad. For me, my wedding day was surely a wonderful day. Celebrating our love was magical and we had so much fun and great memories. But this day was surely not the best day of my life. And I know It wasn’t for my husband either.

Why? Because we have so much more to look forward to. I like to call that day “The beginning of the rest of my life”, because this is where everything changes. Since Tom and I are married, we have trough a lot of up and a few downs. Because that is what life brings you anyway, no matter if you’re married or not. 
In a 6 months time, we got married, Tom changed his career direction, I got a new job, and oh, we bought a Labrador puppy! So yes, sometimes we had our moment of doubts but the best thing is that we learned on how to work things out together. That was not easy, because obviously we both want different things. It’s like that in every relationship. And what a magical moment when you realise your partner and yourself desire the same thing without discussing it! Winning! “Come here honey, I’m going to give you a kiss because I’m so happy and this reminds me I took the right decision marrying you.” And this little moment of joy when you both agree can be over an important decision like buying a house or choosing what to eat for dinner. And believe me, that almost never happens that Tom and I agree on what to eat! 

I love being married. I got a lot of feedbacks from people when I told them I was engaged and going to be a wife. “You’re too young”, they said. “That’s a big mistake!”. “Why do you want to get married? Go and lock yourself in prison, that would be a better life!”.

Whaaaaaat? How could you say this to somebody who just got engaged? I had, obviously, happier feedbacks but the negative ones made me want to cry so hard. I was shocked to see that now days, people think marriage is a mistake. If you are sure, you are sure, right? Why waiting and wasting time when I can have the joy to marry my best friend and call him my husband?

I honestly want to be this old couple who’ve been married for 45 years and still hold hands in the street. I want to be this old couple that kids from our family look up to. And I now Tom and I have a long way to go, because we are not perfect. But It’s ok. We love each other so deeply and we have so much fun together. I consider Tom like being a part of myself. He is the other half, “the missing piece” and every time I am near him, I feel better.

That’s how I would resume marriage after 10 months of being a wife: accepting the fact that It’s ok to not be always on the same page, as long as the path you are taking together is the right one for both of you.  The joy of having Tom by my side for the rest of my life is more valuable than anything else to me. So bring on the next months, years, decade, because I know everything is going to be alright.